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Friday, June 27, 2008
Thursday, June 19, 2008
Masha Allah
Masha Allah My Ibn has passed the 5th grade, Alhumdulilah and he is moving on to the 6th grade (homeschool) Insha Allah . Masha Allah I am so Very Proud of my baby .
Sunday, June 15, 2008
The Direction of this Blog from Here on Out!
The Direction of this Blog from Here on Out!
Initially I wanted this blog to be about my life and random everyday happenings, alhumduliah and cooking. My intention Insha Allah is to continue doing post on my life and cooking. along with home schooling, summer break and Ramadan Insha Allah. So this is what I'll be posting on more home school and Ramadan . Also in case you’re wondering why I haven’t done a “What’s for Dinner “ post in a while, I’m still cooking and trying out different recipes on my family which I will share with you all later Insha Allah.
Again thanks for reading .
Saturday, June 14, 2008
Friday, June 13, 2008
Photos From Mali My Husband's Country
I always tell my husband that his family reminds me of the African family in that movie coming to America. He always say I remind him of people who come from the village lol because I moved here from Iowa/Wisconsin I am not a big city girl at all and I didn't have a cell phone didn't see a need or want for it of course now I do Kids older emergencies etc. I was still using dial up lol all kinds of things would make him say honey your from the village as if im behind on time. He sometimes says oh honey I had to rescue you from that Village lol. His family is just like the coming to American family except they are muslim alhumduliah, we watched the movie together one time and for you all who seen it was it a funny movie or not ? It was funny to me, well we watched it and he didn't think it was funny at all not even the chicken bone in the collection bowl part lol . So here are a few pic from my husbands country Mali Ba lol Big Mali.
President Of Mali center
coming to America see what I mean
Back view of two story house
And what you see from the balconies
Entering family compound
family room.jpg)
Kitchen of Apartment above with the view
guess shower is on the other side of the door
Big market in front of the famous mud Masjid http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_Mosque_of_Djenn%C3%A9
My relatives lol just kidding well actually in-laws my husband has family from the village too these are the people my husband refer to.
Another pic at a well getting water
Thursday, June 12, 2008
Extreme Makeover
I've been on this organization/cleaning kick for about a week or so now, well actually longer since our guest left, alhumdulilah. I had the intentions to change my page up a little bit a while ago just never got around to doing it Masha Allah well today alhumdulilah I was able to make a few changes. That's about it oh yeah to all my covering muslim sister's keep it cool n Fan :)
Sunday, June 8, 2008
The Etiquette of Companionship
I was reading this the other day and again today, this is a very good read masha Allah. Insha Allah I pray
you all enjoy it as much as I did. Usually when I read something I like to highlight points that really catch my attention or if I want to go back and read that particular part again Allahu Alam enjoy .
The Manner Of Companionship" -Point Of Benefit Taken From The Book Al-Hilyah by Shaykh Bakr Abee Zayd rahimahullaah-
أدب الزمالة
The Etiquette of Companionship
احذر قرين السوء
Point 23. Beware of the bad companion
كما أن العرق دساس، فإن ”أدب السوء دساس”، إذ الطبيعة نقال، والطباع سراقة، والناس كأسراب القطا مجبولون على تشبه بعضهم ببعض، فاحذر معاشرة من كان كذلك، فإنه العطب والدفع أسهل من الرفع
"Just as hereditary disposition is hidden, 1 "bad characteristics are [also] hidden: 2 because character is transferable, and [first] impressions are major abductors of the hearts, and people are like the flocks of birds, naturally disposed to imitating one another; so beware of associating with whosoever is to this liking; for it is indeed destruction, and " prevention is (always) better than cure..."
وعليه، فتخير للزمالة والصداقة من يعينك على مطلبك، ويقربك إلى ربك ويوافقك على شريف غرضك ومقصدك وخذ تقسيم الصديق في أدق المعايير
صديق منفعة
صديق لذة
صديق فضيلة
"...Therefore, choose the best for companionship and friendship; someone who will help you in your talabah (quest), in drawing nearer to your Lord, and agrees with you in your noble objective and intention. Take [from me] the most precise gauge in categorizing friends:3
1. A friend who befriends you [solely] for his welfare.
2. A friend who befriends you [solely] for fun and entertainment.
3. A friend who befriends you for virtue..."
فالأولان منقطعان بانقطاع موجبهما، المنفعة في الأول واللذة في الثاني
"...As regards to the first two [categories of friends], then their [relationship] with you is cut off once the necessitating reason [for which they befriended you] is fulfilled: the attainment of welfare in the first and fun in the second..."
وأما الثالث فالتعويل عليه، وهو الذي باعث صداقته تبادل الاعتقاد في رسوخ الفضائل لدى كل منهما
"...As for the third category, then this is the one we will concentrate on. He is the one who is driven into a friendship due to mutual belief in the firm establishment of virtue in both people..."
وصديق الفضيلة هذا ”عمله صعبه” يعز الحصول عليها
ومن نفيس كلام هشام بن عبد الملك ”م سنة 125هـ”قوله
"ما بقى من لذات الدنيا شئ إلا أخ أرفع مؤونة التحفظ بيني وبينه” أ هـ
ومن لطيف ما يفيد بعضهم
"العزلة من غير عين العلم: زلة ومن غير زاي الزهد: علة"
"...A companion of virtue today is "a hard currency" and difficult to find. Amongst the beautiful sayings of Hishaam bin 'Abdil-Maalik rahimahullaah (died 125 hijree) is his saying: "Nothing remains of the worldly pleasures except a brother [with] whom I raise the burden of taking precaution between me and him." 4
Amongst the subtle statements that should be noted are some that say: " العزلة (al-'uzla, meaning "isolation") without the [letter] عين 'ayn from [the word] العلم al-'ilm, meaning "knowledge" becomes (in the Arabic language) زلة (zallah - a mistake), and without the [letter]
زاي zaay from the word الزهد (zuhd, asceticism) becomes [in the Arabic language] علة ('illa meaning "defect")..." 5
[Taken from Hilyata Taalibil-'Ilm by Shaykh al-'Allaamah Bakr Aboo Zayd rahimahullaahu ta'aalaa]
1 And on this a fabricated hadeeth, see al-Ilal al-Mutanaahiyah, (2/123, 127), and Sharhul-Ihyaa' (5/348).
2 Sharhul-Ihyaa' (1/74).
3 Muhaadharaatul-Islaamiyyah by Muhammad al-Khidr Husayn (p.125-136). Also see Tadhkiratul-Saami’ wal-Mutakallim by Ibn Jamaa’ah.
Imaam Maalik bin Anas rahimahullaah said:
"Whoever does not love knowledge then there is no good in him. So there should not be any acquaintance between you and him, and nor any friendship." [Imaam al-Kateeb al-Baghdaadee in his Al-Faqeeh wal-Mutafaqqih (vol. 1 pg. 15)]
From Aboo Hurayrah radhiyallaahu 'anhu, who said, "The Messenger of Allaah said, "A person is upon the Deen of his friend. So let each one of you look to whom he keeps as a friend." [Reported by Ahmad (2/303), Aboo Daawood (no.4812) and at-Tirmidhee (no.2484).]
Abud-Dardaa' radhiyallaahu ta'aalaa 'anhu said, "From the fiqh (understanding) of a person is whom he chooses to walk with, enter upon and sit with."
Muhammad bin Seereen rahimahullaah said, "Indeed this ‘Ilm (knowledge) is the Deen (Religlion) so look and see from whom you are taking your religion." [Reported by Imaam Muslim in his introduction to his saheeh(1/15)]
Damarah bin Rabee’ah said,
"From ‘Abdullaah bin Shawdhab who said, "Verily, it is from the bounty/favor of Allaah upon a youth, that when he devotes himself to worship he befriends a righteous person of the Sunnah who teaches and carries him upon it..." and he also said, "Verily, it is from the happiness of a youth and non-Arab/foreigner that Allaah guides them to a Scholar from the people of Ahlus-Sunnah." [Reported by al-Laalikaa’ee (no.30) in his Sharh ‘Usoolul-I’tiqaad.]
4 Tabaqaatun-Nassaabeen, (p.31)
5 Al-'Uzlah by al-Khattaabee.
evil, seclusion from unnessary and aimless activities, because isolation opens the mind and isolates the worries and grief. If applied with a correct understanding, to remain in seclusion (What Shaykh al-'Allaamah Bakr Aboo Zayd rahimahullaah is emphasising is the importance of good companion, but if it is not possible to find one - as is the situation today unfortunately - then in this case he or she should islolate themselves from excessive mixing with the people, but bearing in mind that the two conditions of such isolation; The first condition is al-'Ilm (knowledge); because isolation only benefits the one with knowledge. The second condition is az-Zuhd, and without these two, isolation changes from being something which is beneficial to being something which is harmful. And by isolation it is meant, isolation from remembering Allaah azza wa jalla) can be most beneficial.
Al-Khalaa'(the beneficial and legislative isolation) was something beloved to the Messenger of Allaah sallallaahu 'alayhe wa sallam and was something which prepared him for the Wahiy (revealation) from Allaah jalla wa 'aalaa, as it is confirmed from the hadeeth of our beloved mother 'Aa'ishah radhiyallaahu ta'aalaa 'anhaa that, "The begining of the Wahiy (revealation)to Allaah's Messenger sallallaahu 'alayhe wa sallam came in the form of Ru'yaas-Saalihah (good righteous (true) dreams) during the daytime which came true and clear like the brightness of the daylight, and then the love of seclusion was bestowed upon him. He used to go in seclusion in the cave of Hiraa' where he used to make at-Ta'bbud (worship to Allaah alone) continuosly for consecutive nights before returning home to his family..." [al-Bukhaaree (no.3)]
Shaykhul-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah rahimahullaahu ta'aalaa said,
"It is necessary for the 'abd (servant) to be isolated from others at times for praying, remember Allaah, qira'atul-Qur'aan (reciting the Qur'aan) and evaluating himself and his actions. Also, isolation allows one to make du'aa (supplication), make istighfaar (seek forgiveness), stay away from evil, and so on."
Imaam Ibnul-Jawzee rahimahullaah dedicated three chapters of his well-known book Saydul-Khaatir, he says:
"I have not seen or heard of anything that brings repose, honor, and dignity like seclusion. It helps one to stay away from evil, it protects one's honor, and it saves time. It keeps one away from the jealous minded and those who take pleasure in your affliction. It calls for the dhikr (rememberance) of the 'Aakhirah (Hereafter) and it allows one to reflect on meeting with Allaah. In times of seclusion one's thoughts may roam in that which is beneficial, in that which contains wisdom."
Only Allaah knows the the full benefits of seclusion, for in seclusion, one's mind develops, views and ripened,the heart finds repose, and finds himself to be in an ideal atmosphere for 'ibaadah (worship). By remaining isolated at times, one distances oneself from fitan (trials), from flattering the person who doesn't deserve praise, and from eyes of the jealousy and envy. One is saved from the haughtiness of the arrogant and the follies and wickedness of the idiot. In isolation, one's faults, actions, and statements are all secluded behind a veil.
During periods of isolation, one is able to delve deep into the sea of ideas and concepts. In such a state, the mind is free to form its opinions. The soul, when in isolation is free to achieve a state of rapture, to hunt for stimulating thought. With alone, one does nothing for show or ostentation, since no one but Allaah sees him and no man can hear him except th All Hearing.
Every 'Aalim Rabbaanee (Scholar who has insight into tending to and directing the people, in so much as he raises them upon the small [simple matters] of knowledge before the large [complicated matters]), a genius, or great contributor to society watered the seeds of their greatness from the well of isolation, until the seed became a plant, and then finally, a formidable tree.
Al-Qadhee 'Alee bin 'Abdil-'Azeez al-Jurjaanee rahimahullaah said in his lines of poetry:
"I never tasted the sweetness of life until,
I became a companion of home and book,
There is nothing more honorable than knowledge,
So I seek in no other an associate,
Truly, the only degradation is in mixing with people,
Therefore leave them and live nobly and stately."
Another Arab poet said:
"I have found company in my solitude and I remain fervently in my home,
So felicity was perpetual for me and my happiness grew,
I have severed human relations and I couldn't care,
Did the army go forth or has the president given us a visit!"
Ahmad bin Khaleel al-Hanbalee rahimahullaah said in one of his poems:
"Whoever strives for dignity and comfort
From a long and tedious anxiety,
Let him be one of the people,
And be contented with little,
How can the person find pleasure in life?
As long as he lives unwholesomely,
Between being poked by the deceitful,
And giving flattery to the conceited,
Between tolerating the stingy,
Woe to becoming acquainted with people,
and with all of their ways and lewd behavior and foolishness."
Al-Humaydee al-Muhaddath rahimahullaah said,
"Meeting with people brings about no benefit,
Except with the increase of "qeela wa qaal (he say, she say)"
So decrease in conversing with others, though barring,
the seeking of knowledge or the improvement of one's condition."
Ibn Faaris rahimahullaah said:
"They asked how I was, and I said well,
A need is fulfilled and another is neglected,
When distress is such that my heart becomes crowded,
I say that perhaps one day will bring with it some help and asisstance,
My friend is my cat and my soul's companion are my books,
and the object of my love is my night-lantern."
Imaam Sufyaan Ath-Thawree rahimahullaahu ta'aalaa (who died in 161 hijree) said,
"Hence you must take to the original affair, hold tight to it, and you should take to being unknown, for indeed this is the age to remain unknown. And take to remaining aloof, secluded, and associating little with the people, because when people used to meet, some of them would benefit the others. But as for today, then that has gone and in our view, salvation lies in abandoning them." [Related by Aboo Nu'aym in Al-Hilyah al-Awliyaa(6/356-7/144)]
It's also reported by Imaam adh-Dhahabee in his "As-Siyar A'laamin-Nubalaa (7/229 -257)" that Sufyaan ath-Thawree rahimahullaah said:
"Safety is that you don't desire to be known."
Al-Fudayl bin 'Iyaad rahimahullaah said:
"Whoever is saddened by loneliness and feels tranquil around the people, isn't safe from Riyaa." [As-Siyaar (8/436)]
He also said "Whoever loves to be mentioned will not be mentioned and whoever dislikes to be mentioned, then he will be mentioned." [As-Siyaar (8/432)]
From the poetry of Al-Jurjaanee 'Alee bin 'Abdil-'Azeez (d.392 hijree)
"They say there is some discomfort in you but in fact,
They saw a man who withdrew from the place of humiliation...
I saw that whoever draws nearer to people, would become insignificant to them.
And whosoever is honored by self-esteem will be honored. And if only the people of knowledge protected it, it would in turn have protected them.
And if they exalted it in the hearts of the people, it would have been exalted."
Aboo Sulaymaan al-Khattaabee rahimahullaahu ta'aalaa said: "Isolation benefits only the wise and scholars, and it is most dangerous to the ignorant person." [al-'Uzlah by al-Khattaabee (p.226).]
'Akhookum fillaah,
'Abdur-Rahmaan 'Umar Aboo Ruqayyah bin William bin James Hayes
Al-Jumu'ah, 4th of Jamaadaa 'Uolaa, 1429 AH.
(Corresponding to Friday, May 09,2008)
http://alatharee.multiply.com/tag/matoon%20al-ilmiyyah
أدب الزمالة
The Etiquette of Companionship
احذر قرين السوء
Point 23. Beware of the bad companion
كما أن العرق دساس، فإن ”أدب السوء دساس”، إذ الطبيعة نقال، والطباع سراقة، والناس كأسراب القطا مجبولون على تشبه بعضهم ببعض، فاحذر معاشرة من كان كذلك، فإنه العطب والدفع أسهل من الرفع
"Just as hereditary disposition is hidden, 1 "bad characteristics are [also] hidden: 2 because character is transferable, and [first] impressions are major abductors of the hearts, and people are like the flocks of birds, naturally disposed to imitating one another; so beware of associating with whosoever is to this liking; for it is indeed destruction, and " prevention is (always) better than cure..."
وعليه، فتخير للزمالة والصداقة من يعينك على مطلبك، ويقربك إلى ربك ويوافقك على شريف غرضك ومقصدك وخذ تقسيم الصديق في أدق المعايير
صديق منفعة
صديق لذة
صديق فضيلة
"...Therefore, choose the best for companionship and friendship; someone who will help you in your talabah (quest), in drawing nearer to your Lord, and agrees with you in your noble objective and intention. Take [from me] the most precise gauge in categorizing friends:3
1. A friend who befriends you [solely] for his welfare.
2. A friend who befriends you [solely] for fun and entertainment.
3. A friend who befriends you for virtue..."
فالأولان منقطعان بانقطاع موجبهما، المنفعة في الأول واللذة في الثاني
"...As regards to the first two [categories of friends], then their [relationship] with you is cut off once the necessitating reason [for which they befriended you] is fulfilled: the attainment of welfare in the first and fun in the second..."
وأما الثالث فالتعويل عليه، وهو الذي باعث صداقته تبادل الاعتقاد في رسوخ الفضائل لدى كل منهما
"...As for the third category, then this is the one we will concentrate on. He is the one who is driven into a friendship due to mutual belief in the firm establishment of virtue in both people..."
وصديق الفضيلة هذا ”عمله صعبه” يعز الحصول عليها
ومن نفيس كلام هشام بن عبد الملك ”م سنة 125هـ”قوله
"ما بقى من لذات الدنيا شئ إلا أخ أرفع مؤونة التحفظ بيني وبينه” أ هـ
ومن لطيف ما يفيد بعضهم
"العزلة من غير عين العلم: زلة ومن غير زاي الزهد: علة"
"...A companion of virtue today is "a hard currency" and difficult to find. Amongst the beautiful sayings of Hishaam bin 'Abdil-Maalik rahimahullaah (died 125 hijree) is his saying: "Nothing remains of the worldly pleasures except a brother [with] whom I raise the burden of taking precaution between me and him." 4
Amongst the subtle statements that should be noted are some that say: " العزلة (al-'uzla, meaning "isolation") without the [letter] عين 'ayn from [the word] العلم al-'ilm, meaning "knowledge" becomes (in the Arabic language) زلة (zallah - a mistake), and without the [letter]
زاي zaay from the word الزهد (zuhd, asceticism) becomes [in the Arabic language] علة ('illa meaning "defect")..." 5
[Taken from Hilyata Taalibil-'Ilm by Shaykh al-'Allaamah Bakr Aboo Zayd rahimahullaahu ta'aalaa]
1 And on this a fabricated hadeeth, see al-Ilal al-Mutanaahiyah, (2/123, 127), and Sharhul-Ihyaa' (5/348).
2 Sharhul-Ihyaa' (1/74).
3 Muhaadharaatul-Islaamiyyah by Muhammad al-Khidr Husayn (p.125-136). Also see Tadhkiratul-Saami’ wal-Mutakallim by Ibn Jamaa’ah.
Imaam Maalik bin Anas rahimahullaah said:
"Whoever does not love knowledge then there is no good in him. So there should not be any acquaintance between you and him, and nor any friendship." [Imaam al-Kateeb al-Baghdaadee in his Al-Faqeeh wal-Mutafaqqih (vol. 1 pg. 15)]
From Aboo Hurayrah radhiyallaahu 'anhu, who said, "The Messenger of Allaah said, "A person is upon the Deen of his friend. So let each one of you look to whom he keeps as a friend." [Reported by Ahmad (2/303), Aboo Daawood (no.4812) and at-Tirmidhee (no.2484).]
Abud-Dardaa' radhiyallaahu ta'aalaa 'anhu said, "From the fiqh (understanding) of a person is whom he chooses to walk with, enter upon and sit with."
Muhammad bin Seereen rahimahullaah said, "Indeed this ‘Ilm (knowledge) is the Deen (Religlion) so look and see from whom you are taking your religion." [Reported by Imaam Muslim in his introduction to his saheeh(1/15)]
Damarah bin Rabee’ah said,
"From ‘Abdullaah bin Shawdhab who said, "Verily, it is from the bounty/favor of Allaah upon a youth, that when he devotes himself to worship he befriends a righteous person of the Sunnah who teaches and carries him upon it..." and he also said, "Verily, it is from the happiness of a youth and non-Arab/foreigner that Allaah guides them to a Scholar from the people of Ahlus-Sunnah." [Reported by al-Laalikaa’ee (no.30) in his Sharh ‘Usoolul-I’tiqaad.]
4 Tabaqaatun-Nassaabeen, (p.31)
5 Al-'Uzlah by al-Khattaabee.
evil, seclusion from unnessary and aimless activities, because isolation opens the mind and isolates the worries and grief. If applied with a correct understanding, to remain in seclusion (What Shaykh al-'Allaamah Bakr Aboo Zayd rahimahullaah is emphasising is the importance of good companion, but if it is not possible to find one - as is the situation today unfortunately - then in this case he or she should islolate themselves from excessive mixing with the people, but bearing in mind that the two conditions of such isolation; The first condition is al-'Ilm (knowledge); because isolation only benefits the one with knowledge. The second condition is az-Zuhd, and without these two, isolation changes from being something which is beneficial to being something which is harmful. And by isolation it is meant, isolation from remembering Allaah azza wa jalla) can be most beneficial.
Al-Khalaa'(the beneficial and legislative isolation) was something beloved to the Messenger of Allaah sallallaahu 'alayhe wa sallam and was something which prepared him for the Wahiy (revealation) from Allaah jalla wa 'aalaa, as it is confirmed from the hadeeth of our beloved mother 'Aa'ishah radhiyallaahu ta'aalaa 'anhaa that, "The begining of the Wahiy (revealation)to Allaah's Messenger sallallaahu 'alayhe wa sallam came in the form of Ru'yaas-Saalihah (good righteous (true) dreams) during the daytime which came true and clear like the brightness of the daylight, and then the love of seclusion was bestowed upon him. He used to go in seclusion in the cave of Hiraa' where he used to make at-Ta'bbud (worship to Allaah alone) continuosly for consecutive nights before returning home to his family..." [al-Bukhaaree (no.3)]
Shaykhul-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah rahimahullaahu ta'aalaa said,
"It is necessary for the 'abd (servant) to be isolated from others at times for praying, remember Allaah, qira'atul-Qur'aan (reciting the Qur'aan) and evaluating himself and his actions. Also, isolation allows one to make du'aa (supplication), make istighfaar (seek forgiveness), stay away from evil, and so on."
Imaam Ibnul-Jawzee rahimahullaah dedicated three chapters of his well-known book Saydul-Khaatir, he says:
"I have not seen or heard of anything that brings repose, honor, and dignity like seclusion. It helps one to stay away from evil, it protects one's honor, and it saves time. It keeps one away from the jealous minded and those who take pleasure in your affliction. It calls for the dhikr (rememberance) of the 'Aakhirah (Hereafter) and it allows one to reflect on meeting with Allaah. In times of seclusion one's thoughts may roam in that which is beneficial, in that which contains wisdom."
Only Allaah knows the the full benefits of seclusion, for in seclusion, one's mind develops, views and ripened,the heart finds repose, and finds himself to be in an ideal atmosphere for 'ibaadah (worship). By remaining isolated at times, one distances oneself from fitan (trials), from flattering the person who doesn't deserve praise, and from eyes of the jealousy and envy. One is saved from the haughtiness of the arrogant and the follies and wickedness of the idiot. In isolation, one's faults, actions, and statements are all secluded behind a veil.
During periods of isolation, one is able to delve deep into the sea of ideas and concepts. In such a state, the mind is free to form its opinions. The soul, when in isolation is free to achieve a state of rapture, to hunt for stimulating thought. With alone, one does nothing for show or ostentation, since no one but Allaah sees him and no man can hear him except th All Hearing.
Every 'Aalim Rabbaanee (Scholar who has insight into tending to and directing the people, in so much as he raises them upon the small [simple matters] of knowledge before the large [complicated matters]), a genius, or great contributor to society watered the seeds of their greatness from the well of isolation, until the seed became a plant, and then finally, a formidable tree.
Al-Qadhee 'Alee bin 'Abdil-'Azeez al-Jurjaanee rahimahullaah said in his lines of poetry:
"I never tasted the sweetness of life until,
I became a companion of home and book,
There is nothing more honorable than knowledge,
So I seek in no other an associate,
Truly, the only degradation is in mixing with people,
Therefore leave them and live nobly and stately."
Another Arab poet said:
"I have found company in my solitude and I remain fervently in my home,
So felicity was perpetual for me and my happiness grew,
I have severed human relations and I couldn't care,
Did the army go forth or has the president given us a visit!"
Ahmad bin Khaleel al-Hanbalee rahimahullaah said in one of his poems:
"Whoever strives for dignity and comfort
From a long and tedious anxiety,
Let him be one of the people,
And be contented with little,
How can the person find pleasure in life?
As long as he lives unwholesomely,
Between being poked by the deceitful,
And giving flattery to the conceited,
Between tolerating the stingy,
Woe to becoming acquainted with people,
and with all of their ways and lewd behavior and foolishness."
Al-Humaydee al-Muhaddath rahimahullaah said,
"Meeting with people brings about no benefit,
Except with the increase of "qeela wa qaal (he say, she say)"
So decrease in conversing with others, though barring,
the seeking of knowledge or the improvement of one's condition."
Ibn Faaris rahimahullaah said:
"They asked how I was, and I said well,
A need is fulfilled and another is neglected,
When distress is such that my heart becomes crowded,
I say that perhaps one day will bring with it some help and asisstance,
My friend is my cat and my soul's companion are my books,
and the object of my love is my night-lantern."
Imaam Sufyaan Ath-Thawree rahimahullaahu ta'aalaa (who died in 161 hijree) said,
"Hence you must take to the original affair, hold tight to it, and you should take to being unknown, for indeed this is the age to remain unknown. And take to remaining aloof, secluded, and associating little with the people, because when people used to meet, some of them would benefit the others. But as for today, then that has gone and in our view, salvation lies in abandoning them." [Related by Aboo Nu'aym in Al-Hilyah al-Awliyaa(6/356-7/144)]
It's also reported by Imaam adh-Dhahabee in his "As-Siyar A'laamin-Nubalaa (7/229 -257)" that Sufyaan ath-Thawree rahimahullaah said:
"Safety is that you don't desire to be known."
Al-Fudayl bin 'Iyaad rahimahullaah said:
"Whoever is saddened by loneliness and feels tranquil around the people, isn't safe from Riyaa." [As-Siyaar (8/436)]
He also said "Whoever loves to be mentioned will not be mentioned and whoever dislikes to be mentioned, then he will be mentioned." [As-Siyaar (8/432)]
From the poetry of Al-Jurjaanee 'Alee bin 'Abdil-'Azeez (d.392 hijree)
"They say there is some discomfort in you but in fact,
They saw a man who withdrew from the place of humiliation...
I saw that whoever draws nearer to people, would become insignificant to them.
And whosoever is honored by self-esteem will be honored. And if only the people of knowledge protected it, it would in turn have protected them.
And if they exalted it in the hearts of the people, it would have been exalted."
Aboo Sulaymaan al-Khattaabee rahimahullaahu ta'aalaa said: "Isolation benefits only the wise and scholars, and it is most dangerous to the ignorant person." [al-'Uzlah by al-Khattaabee (p.226).]
'Akhookum fillaah,
'Abdur-Rahmaan 'Umar Aboo Ruqayyah bin William bin James Hayes
Al-Jumu'ah, 4th of Jamaadaa 'Uolaa, 1429 AH.
(Corresponding to Friday, May 09,2008)
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Thursday, June 5, 2008
Some ~ME~ Time
About a week or so ago I had a scare with a companion of mine,she wasn't feel well so I took her to the emergency room, Alhumdulilah she is fine. Well since that day I have really been analysing myself and my own health Masha Allah. I know I've said before 2008 is my year (meaning I will do more for myself) well I haven't really stuck with it Allahu Alam. I've been giving so much of myself to others friends family that my own needs/wants tend to be put on the back burner. So My new Plans for ME I almost feel guilty for emphasising on Me but if I don't who will? My ~ME~ Plans are,,,, start a work out regimen, Get a spa trip/plans together,keep up with my Quran reading I just recently finished my Quran/Arabic classes Masha Allah I am officially reading quran in Arabic Alhumdulilah Alhumduilah Alhumdulilah. Start a web site more info about that too Insha Allah. Oh Yeah How can I forget Sewing I plans to make another khimar and a niqab, I made one Khimar already Insha Allah I will put a pic up soon just keep in mind I am not professional at all but it is wearable Masha Allah. Just a Few Plans I might add more ( I want to add more) can't think of anymore right now LOL :)
Friday, May 23, 2008
What's For Dinner (Yesterday)
Oxtail with Potato/Rice
I made oxtail with potatoes yesterday oh and of course a pot of rice for my husband.
I mention before about my pressure cooker pot if you don't have one I strongly recommend you getting one Insha Allah they are so convenient masha Allah.
~~Ingredient~~
Depending on your family size
2-3 lbs of oxtail
2-3 lg onion chopped
1/2 cup of oil(I use veggie)
1-2 habanero peppers(depending on your tolerance) chopped
5-6 medium potatoes peeled and chopped into chunks
3-4 halal maggie
3-4 cups of water
1 lg pot or Pressure Cooker
**Optional** pot of Rice
~~Preparation~~
First saute onions and peppers in the 1/2 cup of oil, then add the oxtail and saute it also with the onions and peppers. Add the maggie and the water and let it all cook for 20-30 after the pressure pot start making that pressure sound. Again once the pot starts making the pressure sound cook it for like 20-30 min. I say 20-30 min because it depends on the amount of water and the actual size of the pot Insha Allah . After the 30 min turn the pot off and let it calm down DON'T OPEN IT RIGHT AWAY IT WILL EXPLODE IN YOUR FACE SO BE VERY VERY VERY CAREFUL INSHA ALLAH. Once the pot is calm open it check the water level and taste meat to see if it's done enough for you. I like my meat very tender to wear it's falling off the bone so at this point I would add a little bit more water let it cook another 15min after the pressure sound. Then after that additional 15 min I let it calm down and then I open it and add the potatoes there should be enough water in the pot at this point to let the potatoes cook until their soft. not mashed you want then to be in chunks but done. Ok so you've added the potatoes now close the pressure pot back and turn it on
let it start boiling not the pressure sound once it starts boiling cut it off and let it stay closed for about 10 min and insha Allah your potatoes should be done and that's it.~~~Enjoy~~~
~~~Brought to you from UmmAslam's Kitchen~~~
I made oxtail with potatoes yesterday oh and of course a pot of rice for my husband.
I mention before about my pressure cooker pot if you don't have one I strongly recommend you getting one Insha Allah they are so convenient masha Allah.
~~Ingredient~~
Depending on your family size
2-3 lbs of oxtail
2-3 lg onion chopped
1/2 cup of oil(I use veggie)
1-2 habanero peppers(depending on your tolerance) chopped
5-6 medium potatoes peeled and chopped into chunks
3-4 halal maggie
3-4 cups of water
1 lg pot or Pressure Cooker
**Optional** pot of Rice
~~Preparation~~
First saute onions and peppers in the 1/2 cup of oil, then add the oxtail and saute it also with the onions and peppers. Add the maggie and the water and let it all cook for 20-30 after the pressure pot start making that pressure sound. Again once the pot starts making the pressure sound cook it for like 20-30 min. I say 20-30 min because it depends on the amount of water and the actual size of the pot Insha Allah . After the 30 min turn the pot off and let it calm down DON'T OPEN IT RIGHT AWAY IT WILL EXPLODE IN YOUR FACE SO BE VERY VERY VERY CAREFUL INSHA ALLAH. Once the pot is calm open it check the water level and taste meat to see if it's done enough for you. I like my meat very tender to wear it's falling off the bone so at this point I would add a little bit more water let it cook another 15min after the pressure sound. Then after that additional 15 min I let it calm down and then I open it and add the potatoes there should be enough water in the pot at this point to let the potatoes cook until their soft. not mashed you want then to be in chunks but done. Ok so you've added the potatoes now close the pressure pot back and turn it on
let it start boiling not the pressure sound once it starts boiling cut it off and let it stay closed for about 10 min and insha Allah your potatoes should be done and that's it.~~~Enjoy~~~
~~~Brought to you from UmmAslam's Kitchen~~~
Wednesday, May 21, 2008
Insha Allah I had the intentions to do a post on our guest we had this past weekend, but I decided not to because I'm afraid it will unintentionally lead into backbiting Allahu Alam. So to avoid eating someone's flesh, Insha Allah I will post this instead Insha Allah.Tuesday, May 20, 2008
I can See Clearly Now the Blurr is Gone!
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ My New Glasses~~~~~~~~~~~~
Hey Y'all I have soooooooo much to blog about Insha Allah I will be blogging more in the next few days but first I got new glasses, Alhumdulilah, Alhumdulilah,Alhumdulilah. I'm walking around my house singing I can See Clearly Now the Blurr is Gone! I knew I needed glasses but dang not this bad WOW! What a difference Alhumdulilah.
next few post Insha Allah.
*We had guest for the weekend
*When you say your doing suchNsuch for the Pleasure of Allah, really mean it.
*Money sometimes blind people so much, that they forget about death.
*It's scary seeing how some people have this nonchalant attitude about salat,
as if they won't be asked about it. SubhanaAllah.
Hey Y'all I have soooooooo much to blog about Insha Allah I will be blogging more in the next few days but first I got new glasses, Alhumdulilah, Alhumdulilah,Alhumdulilah. I'm walking around my house singing I can See Clearly Now the Blurr is Gone! I knew I needed glasses but dang not this bad WOW! What a difference Alhumdulilah.
next few post Insha Allah.
*We had guest for the weekend
*When you say your doing suchNsuch for the Pleasure of Allah, really mean it.
*Money sometimes blind people so much, that they forget about death.
*It's scary seeing how some people have this nonchalant attitude about salat,
as if they won't be asked about it. SubhanaAllah.
Thursday, May 15, 2008
The Importance of A Good Companion
The Importance of a Good Companion
Choosing and having good companions is extremely important for many reasons and from many aspects.
1. Mankind cannot live alone; every individual must live and interact with others, and when interacting with others one either influences or is himself influenced.
2. Those people whom you sit with and make your friends are inevitably going to fall into one of two categories. They will either be good individuals - who guide and encourage you towards what is good and help you to accomplish that which Allaah has ordered, or they are going to be bad - encouraging you to do what is pleasing to Satan, that which misleads you, and leads you to the Hell-Fire.
3. When the Prophet was sent with the mission to establish Islam, he did not do it on his own. Rather, Allaah chose for him companions who accompanied him and who carried the Message until it was complete.
These three aspects show the importance of having good companions, companions who are righteous. Such a companion will help you to do what is good and remind you of Allaah, he will enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil. These aspects also show the importance of avoiding befriending bad companions, because such a companion will have a bad effect upon you, they help you to do those deeds which are displeasing to Allaah and which lead to the Hell-Fire.
The Prophet gave a good similitude regarding this. He said: .""The case of the good companion and the bad companion is like that of the seller of musk and the blower of the bellows (iron-smith). As for the seller of musk, he will either give you some of the musk, or you will purchase some from him, or at least you will come away having experienced its good smell. Whereas the blower of the bellows will either burn your clothing, or at least you will come away having experienced its repugnant smell [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim]
The Prophet explained the matter of good companionship, so that no room is left for doubt or confusion, when he said: "A person is upon the religion of his close friend, so beware whom you befriend." [Abu Daawood and At-Tirmithi]
This means that a person will be upon the same methodology as his friend, the same path as his friend, the same nature, manner and behavior as his friend.
So we must be careful whom we befriend. There is an Arabic saying: 'Your companion is what pulls you to something.' So if your companion is good, he will pull you towards that which is good.
He will order us with what is good and forbid us from what is evil. If he observes us committing sins he would warn us, if he becomes aware of our shortcomings he would advise us, and if he finds a fault in us he would cover it and not disclose it to others.
About this, the Prophet said: "…Whoever conceals (the fault of) a Muslim, Allaah will conceal his fault on the day of Judgment." [Abu Daawood]
So should you see a fault in your brother, you should wish to remove that fault from him and not expose it to the people. This is what is required by brotherhood and again stresses the importance of choosing friends who are upon the correct way, who are loyal, and who hide your faults whilst ordering you with good and forbidding you from evil, who stand beside you and support you, and co-operate with you upon all that is good.
This principle is important from the standpoint of how the religion is to be established, and from the standpoint of what brotherhood is and what it does. Indeed, the reason that one takes a companion is to help him establish Islam, and to help him worship Allaah.
We find a good example in the Prophet Moosaa
the one whom Allaah chose and spoke to. When Allaah sent him to Pharaoh, he (Moosaa) said as Allaah informs us saying (what means): "And appoint for me a helper from my family, Haaroon - my brother; increase my strength with him, and let him share my task (of conveying Allaah's Message and Prophethood), that we may glorify You much and remember You much." [Quran; 20: 29-34]
Moosaa wanted his brother to support him and help him, protect him and accompany him. This is exactly what the believers do for one another. For the thing that binds the believers together and makes them brothers is the bond of faith.
The Prophet said: "There are three characteristics; whoever has them will taste the sweetness of faith: That Allaah and His Messenger are more beloved to him than all else, that he loves a person and does not love him except for the sake of Allaah, and that he would hate to revert to unbelief just as he would hate to be thrown into the Fire." [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim]
Thus the connection between the believers is based upon faith and sincere brotherhood. Beware against taking any companion if such companionship is based upon other than this, for if you were to do that you would then bite your hands in grief.
Just as the unjust ones will bite their hands in grief. Allaah Says (what means): "And (remember) the Day when the wrong-doer (oppressor, polytheist etc.) will bite at his hand, he will say: `Oh! Would that I had taken a path with the Messenger. Ah! Woe to me! Would that I had never taken so-and-so as a friend! He indeed led me astray from the Reminder (the Quran) after it had come to me….'" [Quran; 25:27]
And Allaah Says (what means): "And whosoever turns away from the remembrance of the Most Beneficent (Allaah), We appoint for him Satan to be a Qareen (intimate companion) to him." [Quran; 43:36]
So all of the physical togetherness that you see around you, which is based upon other than faith will be wiped away on that Day, and it will be a source of misery and torture for them. Allaah Says (what means): "Friends on that Day will be foes one to another except the pious." [Quran; 43:67]
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Sunday, May 11, 2008
Wednesday, May 7, 2008
what NOT!!! to wear when it's Windy outside
I went out with two of my companions this past Saturday Masha Allah, everything was going well alhumdulilah. Until I got out of the car and started walking to the stores.
Wait I have to start from the beginning Insha Allah this past Saturday my lil mommah went with her Abi alhumdulilah and my son wanted to stay home masha Allah, I usually take them with me every where I go masha Allah and the Uktis that know me know I take my kids with me everywhere alhumdulilah. So with one away with Abi and the other wanted to stay home I was child free this past Saturday, so I guess the thought and excitement of that over took me while getting dress lol. Our Plans were we would leave after lil mommah was picked up insha Allah, so while waiting,,, of course I am not dress yet, well not dressed to go outside at least, I was just lounging around in some white jogging pants that were lol obvious too small for me they wasn't tight just way too short highwaters with a flare,,, too small,, but what the heck i'm in the house I mean who's gonna see me emmm emmm emmm lol. Anyways my companions call me and we decide ok we are going now so I will pick up one Ukti and we all meet at the others house, So im like ok, I hurry up and get my over head abaya throw it on khimar and niqab and head out the door oops I forgot I put on some long black socks too ok so i'm out WITH THE QUICKNESS and child free. It was a little windy but not windy enough to remind me that I have on HIGHWATER WHITE JOGGING PANTS WITH LONG BLACK SOCKS WINDY. So I paid it no mind , So I pick my one companion up and we head to our other companions house at this point I'm still not noticing the wind, so now were all together ready to go, I'm still gitty over not having the kids so I'm ready to go shopping. We had to park a little ways from the stores we were going to,so we get out and start walking and like all of a sudden this BIG GOOSH of wind hit me and my abaya clung too me and not only did it cling but it raised a little bit at the bottom and exposed my HIGHWATER WHITE JOGGING PANTS WITH LONG BLACK SOCKS LOL Oh My Goodness. I say to my one companion walk in front of me until the wind dies down here she goes lol OH JIMINY CRIKET WHO TOLD YOU TO COME OUT OF THE HOUSE WITH THEM ON anyways LOLLLLLLLLLLLL so were all laughing and I'm telling her to be quiet and keep walking so nobody looks, Now I'm trying to keep my abaya down and walking oh so funny. We go into one store my companion says roll them up so you can't see them any more lol that made it worse lol , we leave that store and here comes the wind again now you see my HIGHWATER WHITE JOGGING PANTS ROLLED UP WITH LONG BLACK SOCKS ON Oh BOY. Once the wind made my abaya go up that time I stopped in place and unrolled my pants lol with my feet underneath my abaya. keep in mind I have on a over head abaya so alhumdulilah we go into this islamic store that sales overgarment, I'm looking around for a changing room I find it and asked one of my companions to come in with me, soon as I got in their I hurried up took my niqab off khimar off and pulled my overhead abaya off my head lol to my shoulder put my khimar back on and niqab came out with a sigh of relief my goodness so funny What a day. Masha Allah
Wednesday, April 30, 2008
Strangers SubhanAllah
I remember living in Iowa, and this Imam Masha Allah would give really good lectures and Kutbahs masha Allah. Great lecture Insha Allah
Friday, April 25, 2008
Jumah, ,Iowa,Proper Covering,That's Not Hijab
Insha Allah This post will be about all four topics Insha Allah.
~Jumah~
I went to Jumah today alhumdulilah very nice kutbah masha Allah, the kutbah today was about salat and about performing salat correctly and so forth. I'm not too sure if the Imam mentioned proper covering for men and women because at some point during the kutbah I had to get up and take lil mommah potty. So any who after jumah today one of the sister stood up and made and announcement about sisters not covering correctly for prayer some how I miss that part too because I had gone to put lil mommah shoes on then this sister came out too the shoe area greeted me,and was saying how nervous she was,,,,, and i'm like why? She says because of the comment I just made about sisters not covering correctly then I said oh ok,,,,,,,,, then i'm like wait did I miss that too,,, what comment? Then she explained, and I told her that's good masha Allah unfortunately the ways you see these sisters covering it has to do with their culture. From my own personal experience (being married to an West African man) it's hard to advice some sisters specialy when it comes to it conflicting with their culture of dress. As We're walking to our cars another sister comes up to us and starts talking to us about the comment this sister just made and that We really need to do a talk or have a discussion about proper covering specially during salat. I TOTALY agree.
~~~~~~~Iowa~~~~~~ Growing in my deen understanding proper covering
~~~~~ Proper Covering ~~~~~~ What does it mean to you ?
I remember one morning on my way to work, I was dropping my son off at school an islamic school that was also the masjid, Usually when i go, there is no one there except the maintanace man or women getting school read for the day.This one perticular morning The Imam was there and the layout of this masjid is when you walk in, the imams office/principle office is the first door you see and usually it's closed because he is usually not there when I come because I was dropping my son off early so I could get to work on time. So this one morning I drop him off and I open the door and the imams door is open and he is sitting there and he looked at me in a Very disapointed way so I just thought maybe he is having a not so good morning and was thinking about something at that perticular time and I just happen to see the expression on his face. So I give him the greeting then I walk my son to his class room. I go to leave, and Imam call me into his office, I knew it wasn't something good at this point because he still has that same dissapointing look on his face,.First thing he ask me was, What does Proper hijab and covering mean to YOU? My response scarf,long sleeves, long pants or long skirt,or jilbab. After me saying that he hands me this paper and suggest I read it and As Salaamu Alaikum <-my clue to leave now lol foreal thats all he said Mind you I was on my ways to work so I was wearing some casual pants and a suit jacket and hijab to match and some type of heels or dress shoes. When I left my home that morning I considered my self covered, until the imam asked me that question. That whole day I felt soooooo self conscious about what I had on that day subhanAllah . After reading this article along with a few others, I figure out that I was not covering properly at all subhanAllah . My clothes were in fact not loose enough and the jilbabs I was wearing back then were tooo tight as well subhanAllah May Allah forgive me of my shortcoming Ameen.
How I dressed before and thought was covering (NOTE THIS IS NOT ME) this is how I was dressed that day
How I cover now of course with niqab (NOTE THIS TOO IS NOT ME ) just wanted to show MY understanding of coverning then and now alhumdulilah.
1) Women must not dress so as to appear as men. "Ibn Abbas narrated: 'The Prophet (Sallalahu alayhi wasalaam) cursed the men who appear like women and the women who appear like men.'" (Bukhari)
(2) Women should not dress in a way similar to the unbelievers.
The Conditions for the Proper Hijaab
AUTHOR: Shaikh Zayd bin Muhammad Al-Madkhalee
SOURCE: His treatise "Wujoob Sitr-il-Wajhi wal-Kafayn"
PRODUCED BY: Al-Ibaanah.com
Second: An explanation of the conditions required for the Hijaab to fulfill its religious objective. Below is a list of the Hijaab’s necessary conditions:
1. The Hijaab must cover a woman’s entire body, based on Allaah’s statement: “O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the believing women to cast their jalaabeeb over themselves (i.e. their bodies).” [33:59] You have already come to know from what we have written previously that the jilbaab is a long garment that is ample enough to cover the entire body and that the meaning of the word idnaa (to cast) is “to lower” and “to let down” as was stated previously.
2. The garment must be thick, not thin and transparent. This is since the objective of the Hijaab, which is to veil a woman’s entire body and her hidden and apparent adornment, cannot be achieved with a thin garment. Therefore, that which a great amount of covered women wear today, which they call the ‘abaa’ah (cloak) or the malaa’ah (mantle), but which are transparent and describe the skin, such that the onlooker can see what lies beneath the garment, is not considered a legitimate Hijaab since it only brings about an increase in her ability to entice (men) with her attractive and alluring features. And yet they only wear it so that it could be said: “They are wearing Hijaab.” So we seek Allaah’s refuge from deception, the harm of which only falls on those who love and are infatuated with it.
3. The Hijaab must not be a source of decoration in itself, such as by it being colorful and flashy, causing eyes to turn towards it and hearts to be diseased (with temptation). We explained previously the meaning of Allaah’s saying: "And (tell the believing women) not to display their zeenah (adornment) except for that which is apparent from it.” [24:31] So since it is this way, then every Hijaab that does not prevent the display of one’s adornment in front of male-strangers, is not a valid Hijaab.
4. It must be ample and loose, since a tight garment outlines the body and reveals it in front of male strangers. So it goes against the objective that is sought after from the obligation of Hijaab. Furthermore, from the various types of tight clothes is that which is called pants, since it does not properly cover what it goes over. On top of that, it describes and outlines the body, as well as resembling the dress of men, and the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) cursed: “The man who wears a woman’s garment and the woman who wears a man’s garment.” [Reported by Abu Dawood and An-Nasaa’ee]
5. It is also required for the Hijaab not to be perfumed, since fragrances cause men’s desires to be incited and for them to be tempted, against their wills. So a woman who does this carries the sin of her action as well as the sin of those who respond to her active call to this type of fornication. It is reported in a hadeeth collected by the Sunan compilers and others that the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “Indeed, when a woman perfumes herself and then passes by a gathering, she is such and such” – meaning a fornicator. And in another narration, he (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “Verily, when a woman perfumes herself and then passes by a group of people such that they can smell her scent, she is a fornicator.”
These, O Muslim brothers and sisters, are the conditions required for the Hijaab to achieve its intended objective. So we must fear Allaah and be dutiful to Him by obeying what He has commanded and abstaining from what He has forbidden, and by following His Messenger (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam), for indeed this brings success in both this life and the next
~~~~~~~~~~~That's Not Hijab~~~~~~~~~~~
~Jumah~
I went to Jumah today alhumdulilah very nice kutbah masha Allah, the kutbah today was about salat and about performing salat correctly and so forth. I'm not too sure if the Imam mentioned proper covering for men and women because at some point during the kutbah I had to get up and take lil mommah potty. So any who after jumah today one of the sister stood up and made and announcement about sisters not covering correctly for prayer some how I miss that part too because I had gone to put lil mommah shoes on then this sister came out too the shoe area greeted me,and was saying how nervous she was,,,,, and i'm like why? She says because of the comment I just made about sisters not covering correctly then I said oh ok,,,,,,,,, then i'm like wait did I miss that too,,, what comment? Then she explained, and I told her that's good masha Allah unfortunately the ways you see these sisters covering it has to do with their culture. From my own personal experience (being married to an West African man) it's hard to advice some sisters specialy when it comes to it conflicting with their culture of dress. As We're walking to our cars another sister comes up to us and starts talking to us about the comment this sister just made and that We really need to do a talk or have a discussion about proper covering specially during salat. I TOTALY agree.
~~~~~~~Iowa~~~~~~ Growing in my deen understanding proper covering
~~~~~ Proper Covering ~~~~~~ What does it mean to you ?
I remember one morning on my way to work, I was dropping my son off at school an islamic school that was also the masjid, Usually when i go, there is no one there except the maintanace man or women getting school read for the day.This one perticular morning The Imam was there and the layout of this masjid is when you walk in, the imams office/principle office is the first door you see and usually it's closed because he is usually not there when I come because I was dropping my son off early so I could get to work on time. So this one morning I drop him off and I open the door and the imams door is open and he is sitting there and he looked at me in a Very disapointed way so I just thought maybe he is having a not so good morning and was thinking about something at that perticular time and I just happen to see the expression on his face. So I give him the greeting then I walk my son to his class room. I go to leave, and Imam call me into his office, I knew it wasn't something good at this point because he still has that same dissapointing look on his face,.First thing he ask me was, What does Proper hijab and covering mean to YOU? My response scarf,long sleeves, long pants or long skirt,or jilbab. After me saying that he hands me this paper and suggest I read it and As Salaamu Alaikum <-my clue to leave now lol foreal thats all he said Mind you I was on my ways to work so I was wearing some casual pants and a suit jacket and hijab to match and some type of heels or dress shoes. When I left my home that morning I considered my self covered, until the imam asked me that question. That whole day I felt soooooo self conscious about what I had on that day subhanAllah . After reading this article along with a few others, I figure out that I was not covering properly at all subhanAllah . My clothes were in fact not loose enough and the jilbabs I was wearing back then were tooo tight as well subhanAllah May Allah forgive me of my shortcoming Ameen.
How I dressed before and thought was covering (NOTE THIS IS NOT ME) this is how I was dressed that day
How I cover now of course with niqab (NOTE THIS TOO IS NOT ME ) just wanted to show MY understanding of coverning then and now alhumdulilah.
1) Women must not dress so as to appear as men. "Ibn Abbas narrated: 'The Prophet (Sallalahu alayhi wasalaam) cursed the men who appear like women and the women who appear like men.'" (Bukhari)
(2) Women should not dress in a way similar to the unbelievers.
The Conditions for the Proper Hijaab
AUTHOR: Shaikh Zayd bin Muhammad Al-Madkhalee
SOURCE: His treatise "Wujoob Sitr-il-Wajhi wal-Kafayn"
PRODUCED BY: Al-Ibaanah.com
Second: An explanation of the conditions required for the Hijaab to fulfill its religious objective. Below is a list of the Hijaab’s necessary conditions:
1. The Hijaab must cover a woman’s entire body, based on Allaah’s statement: “O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the believing women to cast their jalaabeeb over themselves (i.e. their bodies).” [33:59] You have already come to know from what we have written previously that the jilbaab is a long garment that is ample enough to cover the entire body and that the meaning of the word idnaa (to cast) is “to lower” and “to let down” as was stated previously.
2. The garment must be thick, not thin and transparent. This is since the objective of the Hijaab, which is to veil a woman’s entire body and her hidden and apparent adornment, cannot be achieved with a thin garment. Therefore, that which a great amount of covered women wear today, which they call the ‘abaa’ah (cloak) or the malaa’ah (mantle), but which are transparent and describe the skin, such that the onlooker can see what lies beneath the garment, is not considered a legitimate Hijaab since it only brings about an increase in her ability to entice (men) with her attractive and alluring features. And yet they only wear it so that it could be said: “They are wearing Hijaab.” So we seek Allaah’s refuge from deception, the harm of which only falls on those who love and are infatuated with it.
3. The Hijaab must not be a source of decoration in itself, such as by it being colorful and flashy, causing eyes to turn towards it and hearts to be diseased (with temptation). We explained previously the meaning of Allaah’s saying: "And (tell the believing women) not to display their zeenah (adornment) except for that which is apparent from it.” [24:31] So since it is this way, then every Hijaab that does not prevent the display of one’s adornment in front of male-strangers, is not a valid Hijaab.
4. It must be ample and loose, since a tight garment outlines the body and reveals it in front of male strangers. So it goes against the objective that is sought after from the obligation of Hijaab. Furthermore, from the various types of tight clothes is that which is called pants, since it does not properly cover what it goes over. On top of that, it describes and outlines the body, as well as resembling the dress of men, and the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) cursed: “The man who wears a woman’s garment and the woman who wears a man’s garment.” [Reported by Abu Dawood and An-Nasaa’ee]
5. It is also required for the Hijaab not to be perfumed, since fragrances cause men’s desires to be incited and for them to be tempted, against their wills. So a woman who does this carries the sin of her action as well as the sin of those who respond to her active call to this type of fornication. It is reported in a hadeeth collected by the Sunan compilers and others that the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “Indeed, when a woman perfumes herself and then passes by a gathering, she is such and such” – meaning a fornicator. And in another narration, he (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “Verily, when a woman perfumes herself and then passes by a group of people such that they can smell her scent, she is a fornicator.”
These, O Muslim brothers and sisters, are the conditions required for the Hijaab to achieve its intended objective. So we must fear Allaah and be dutiful to Him by obeying what He has commanded and abstaining from what He has forbidden, and by following His Messenger (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam), for indeed this brings success in both this life and the next
~~~~~~~~~~~That's Not Hijab~~~~~~~~~~~
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
Answer to Your Questions ?
A number of sisters have emailed me asking about this book,and if the author is muslim and so forth. The author's name is Beth Johnson and she is not muslim the book is about three true stories on how reading changed their life. One of the women in the book that she wrote about was my Aunt Retired Police Officer JuliaMae Burney/ Witherspoon. My Aunt started a reading program called CopsNKids in Wisconsin she appeared on the Oprah show the today show and been in a few magazines. So to answer the questions no it's not an Islamic book, no the author is not muslim were to get it get it here Insha Allah http://www.townsendpress.com/product/49.aspx still haven't figured out how to do the see (here) thing yet so I will just past the web site Insha Allah
more info on my Aunt
http://www.fbi.gov/page2/jan05/leaders011705.htm
http://www.digitaljournalist.org/issue0103/assign/hertzberg.htm
http://www.oprah.com/uyl/angel/uyl_angel_20000925_copnkid.jhtml
~~~ Thanks to all who have read my blog~~~~
Sudanese Dish (Story)
This dish may not be a Sudanese Dish officially, but a sister made this dish one jumah and brought it to the masjid when I lived in Iowa.Alhumdulilah it was So good and I've been making it since then,and calling it my Sudanese dish even though it might not be an actual dish from Sudan Allahu Alim When I moved to Des Moines Iowa from New York I went to my first jumah, It was nice the sister's there were soooooo friendly alhumdulilah I was sorta taken back by it, because they just seemed overly friendly masha Allah.I met the Imam and his wife masha Allah they were a very nice and religious couple. I introduced my self and my two children and explained to them that I was new to Iowa and needed help with furniture masha Allah they were so kind the next day this Pakistani brother Abdullah knocked on my door and brought me a let out couch,a lamp and some end tables he was in school there and was moving to another state so he gave me all of his funiture masha Allah may Allah continue to bless that brother and his family Ameen . It was such a surprise, because the imam and his wife wasn't sure if they new anyone at the time who could help me so anywho I got furniture and my uncle(not muslim)May Allah guide him and the rest of my family Ameen got a house for us and helped me with my bills for a few months until I could get back on my feet.My uncle was sooo surprised about me getting furniture from muslim he hadn't seen that he was sorta thinking I would go to the churches for assistance because he only new of churches at the time so he was surprise that I went to the masjid and was able to get assistance alhumdulilah he definitely saw muslims in a different light. He was very happy that I was able to get help and I was even happier because I was able to get help from the muslims with me having two kids' Mash Allah . Sorry I'm veering off as usual ok so back to jumah lol:) so my children and I were at jumah and like I said the sister's were extremely nice masha Allah they was serving food and chatting with me and was asking me how I came to islam (if I'm married )and if not am I in need of a husband how was it in New York them sister's weren't shy with the questions at all masha Allah. With all the chatting and questions I only took maybe one or two bites of this rice dish one of the sisters gave me but I was thinking in the mist of the questions dang this rice stuff is good lol :) my son was down stairs with the brothers and they had food as well and he ate some of the rice stuff too, when we were on our way home my son asked me what food did you all have upstairs (we always do this specially during Ramadan on the way home we would ask each other what did you eat and what was in it did you like it and so forth ). So on the way home he asked me did y'all have that rice stuff ? I said yeah it was goooooood huh? He goes yeah.Then we started trying to guess what was in it. We knew it had rice,ground beef,and peas,onions but wasn't too sure of the seasoning. That following Sunday the masjid had a family day my kids and I went and a few of the same sister's I met at jumah were there so I asked one of the sister's who made that rice dish we had on jumah? She said oh sister soNso the Sudanese sister right there(this is why I call it Sudanese dish) and pointed to the sisters I asked her how to make it and so here it goes Insha Allah.
~~Ingredients~~
1lb of ground beef,turkey (whatever YOU like)
1or2 onions diced
1or2 medium potatoes diced
1can of sweet peas
2tbls of cumin
1cup water
salt and pepper to taste (notice no maggie) lol
I know my readers are like dang she use maggie in EVERYTHING! except this that is lol:)but you can use maggie in this if you like :)
~~~~~STEPS FOR PREPARATION~~~~~
brown ground beef with onions salt,pepper,drain excess oil when finish add peas and a little bit of the pea juice so the meat doesn't stick and cumin just let cook for about 5 or 10 min not very long and then after that add the potatoes and the water and let it cook down until the potatoes are tender to taste and that's it
Sunday, April 13, 2008
Question????????????
I have a question for my fellow muslimahs and bloggers Insha Allah, What's a ghusl/wudoo friendly hair style besides braids? I just can't do the braid thing masha Allah for one takes too long and two it's too hard for me to take down myself Allahu Alim. Has anyone read the new book out titled "Dangers of the Beauty Salon" by Shaykhah Umm Abdillah al-Waadi'yyah? I have not read it or got it yet Insha Allah I will.
Saturday, April 12, 2008
What's Going On!!!!!! Ok I'm Confused Now
Ok my Fish & Attiéké post I just posted yesterday,it's now showing after my other post, Masha Allah any who maybe it's a glitch with the site Allahu Alim just wanted to let y'all know. I am confused now.
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